It is the end of May and we are wrapping up what may be the second busiest month of the year. Our schedule is compounded with extra events and end of the school year activities plus I am at the peak of my kids’ travel soccer schedule. I’m sure a lot of you mamas out there feel the same way I do. You are trying to manage so much with home life and perhaps work too and it can be overwhelming to handle it all. I often feel that I am spinning plates and frequently see them shaking and wobbling and I’m trying my best not to have everything come crashing down. My plates include: work, side hustle as an independent consultant for a direct sales company, kids’ activities and carpool, writing, cleaning, meals, shopping/errands, working out, Bible study, and many more mundane everyday tasks. I can’t continuously spin these plates long term. Something has got to give. I need fewer plates. What usually ends up being neglected is the housework, my workouts, and good meal planning. I have a feeling I may not be alone in this. You too?
I also need time for myself and with my friends. I need to have a short periods of time to recharge my batteries, to focus on what is important, to find gratitude, and to relax each week. I often tell my husband that I do my best thinking in the shower. No distractions. Nobody bothering me. I need this time. Just me in the hot, soothing water while singing along to my favorite music is super relaxing. This time of year, I love sitting on my deck and enjoying the sunshine perhaps with a glass of wine in hand. Do I hand off my spinning plates to take a breather? Or is that relaxation time just another plate to spin?
What do you busy parents do to sustain your ongoing busy schedule without crashing and burning? I guess we need to find what is most important to each of us and continue to spin those plates and have someone that loves us help spin those plates while you sing in the shower or read a book or go for a run or chill on your porch or whatever will recharge your batteries to go back to spin some more.
I don’t want it all to come tumbling down. I want to be SuperMom and SuperWife. As much as I wish I had super powers, I do not. I don’t have the energy or stamina to continue at this pace without reprieve. The plates will come crashing down. I need to say no when my hands are full and put down some plates that I don’t need to be spinning. We must give some consideration about we we can manage and what we can not, about what brings us joy and what does not, about what we can do without and we we cannot. Find your joy. Find your balance. We need to be sure the number of plates we are spinning is manageable and also take the time to sing in the shower.