I hate being a leader. I hate being put in the spotlight. I am not good at directing, managing or delegating. I know that because I have tried and it is just not my thing, not my gift.
I believe we put a lot of pressure on children and teens to be leaders. It is talked up in abundance in schools. Be a leader! Colleges want to see leadership abilities when determining whether or not to admit students. I think this is good and bad. For those with that gift, it is great to encourage and nurture that in young students. But for those like me, it is possibly like trying to make a square peg fit in a round hole. You may be able to finagle it to make it somewhat work, but it will not be a perfect fit and it will be uncomfortable. It was not what that person was designed to be.
I think I have always known I was a follower. One particular experience sticks out in my mind. I drove and followed my uncle’s family hundreds of miles to our beach vacation because we wanted to stick together on the drive. Upon reaching our destination, my uncle complimented me on how well I followed. I agreed, “I am a good follower!” Now I understand that goes beyond just following in a car.
I recently had a self-revelation. I am a behind the scenes player in life, but that does not make me any less important or valuable in what I have to offer my job or society. Oftentimes I do things which go unnoticed, and that is exactly how I like it. I don’t need to run the show. I am an encourager. I am a helper. I am a discrete doer. We all can’t be calling the shots, right? We don’t need all generals and no privates. Just because I am not a leader doesn’t make me less than. We all have our important roles to play. Be a leader. Be a follower. Find your gift and just be you.